Is it possible to send the export in excel, currently I cannot open tableau workbooks with my current 8.0 public software.
Are you talking about the one I made? *blush*
Here's a public workbook of the method I used, except using your small data example.
The key is using two sheets in a dashboard: one to filter the "State", and the other to show the resulting "State To" map. They're linked with a Filter action. I've included one dashboard that uses a table to filter the State, and a second that uses another map. There's also no need to worry about the User count, since you can sum up the Pairs by State (origin).